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I just found a link to this essay in a forum thread on another site, and was a curious kitty, thus read it. I will admit, I have never thought much about the parents who give their kids up for adoption after the adoption occurs. Sometimes the kids get talked about in the context of "will they want to know/meet their biological parents?" but the subject isn't brought up from the parents' point of view.
This essay is from the point of view of a woman who gave a baby up for adoption.
I don't want to re-hash the normal debate. And it doesn't matter what side of it you fall on. This is something I feel we all need to be more aware of.
Now, I'm not a mother and I won't be for a while. The closest I get to this subject is a paternal aunt was adopted. AFAIK she has no issues due to being adopted, and is in contact with her biological father's family, but she's much closer to the family she was raised in--our family. Her being adopted doesn't make any difference in her relationships with anyone in the family, only they talk about things in terms of "before she was around" and "after she was around" instead of "before she was born" and "after she was born", since she wasn't a baby when she was adopted (and she's the oldest of the three kids anyways, but both were born before she was adopted).
Anyways, just passing on something thought-provoking.
This essay is from the point of view of a woman who gave a baby up for adoption.
I don't want to re-hash the normal debate. And it doesn't matter what side of it you fall on. This is something I feel we all need to be more aware of.
Now, I'm not a mother and I won't be for a while. The closest I get to this subject is a paternal aunt was adopted. AFAIK she has no issues due to being adopted, and is in contact with her biological father's family, but she's much closer to the family she was raised in--our family. Her being adopted doesn't make any difference in her relationships with anyone in the family, only they talk about things in terms of "before she was around" and "after she was around" instead of "before she was born" and "after she was born", since she wasn't a baby when she was adopted (and she's the oldest of the three kids anyways, but both were born before she was adopted).
Anyways, just passing on something thought-provoking.
